Coffee Dates

Coffee Together | Vol. 3

If we were having coffee together, I’d first ask you where you’d like to go. I’m horrible at making decisions, and when people step up to make those decisions for me, I feel so relieved. Starbucks? A small coffee shop? Which would you prefer, friend?

If we were having coffee together, I’d tell you I’m being more intentional in studying the Word. I love scripture, and I love spending time in the Word. But friends, I struggle at making daily habits stick. It’s so easy to excuse yourself from time with the Lord when schedules are busy, chores need to be done, etc. In 2017, I’m being more intentional in reading/studying the Word, and I’m seeing the fruit of that habit coming out in my life. Also, shoutout to Lara Casey’s PowerSheets for keeping me on track with my daily habits!

If we were having coffee together, I’d ask you if you had any tips for moving. We decided to move earlier this spring, and it’s getting exciting! Our moving date (March 16th) is coming so soon, and I literally have two boxes packed. I’m so excited to move into our new place & make it home, but man, I have no motivation to pack boxes! I’m hoping after my last day of work, the motivation for packing will be put in hyperdrive (here’s hoping).

If we were having coffee together, I’d ask you about your friendships. I’ve never been one to have many friends. In fact, I’ve never had more than 2-3 really good friends at one time, and they were pen pals of mine. For some reason, I really struggle with friendship & communicating with people. As an introvert, I often have ‘spurts’ of friendliness, then withdraw from communicating for weeks. It’s something I’m really working on, and I’m learning just how sweet good, strong friendships are, and how they need to be cultivated rather than left to grow on their own. Gosh, you guys–friendships are so good. So thankful for people.

If we were having coffee together, I would ask about Valentine’s Day. I’m always interested to hear how other people celebrate holidays. What do you do for Valentine’s Day? Do you embrace it fully, or forget about it? Do you celebrate with your best friends, too? Also, who else goes to the store on the 15th to buy the discounted chocolate? (I hope I’m not the only one!).

If we were having coffee together, I’d ask you about screen time. Oh, friend. I use my phone way too often. It’s something I’m really convicted of, and I know I need to set boundaries for my devices. I downloaded the app Moment to my phone (as per a friend’s recommendation), and it’s so eye-opening. It tracks your daily phone usage in the background, and it’s so crazy to look at how attached I am to my devices. It’s really made me become more intentional in using Airplane Mode & saying “no” to mindless scrolling.

If we were having coffee together, I’d rave on and on about LipSense. I’m usually quite careful in buying products from companies like these, but oh my goodness, this stuff was worth it. You know those videos you’ve seen online with women wearing lip colour & rubbing their lips all over glasses & napkins? They’re showing off their LipSense! This stuff literally lasts all day, and doesn’t budge. I still don’t understand how it works, but okay. As long as it works for me, I don’t have to understand! My friend Rachel sells this fantastic stuff, and you can find her on Instagram under @rachels_lovely_lips. Seriously, go check this out!

The lovely Amber is the mastermind behind coffee date blog posts, and is currently taking a hiatus from blogging, but my lovely friend Erin is continuing these coffee dates over at her place. Want to join us? Head over here to link up.

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  • Lauren McHugh

    Moving recommendations: I know it sounds basic, but label your boxes! And try and keep stuff that goes together, together. Our first night in our new apt, I stayed up until 1am unloading everything and I am actually glad I did that. That way the next day I could focus on organizing and make it feel like home as much as possible.

    Friendships are so hard, especially as adults. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Don’t think you have to have a picture perfect, instagram ready friendship. Not saying you are, but once I let that go when we move, gosh it is freeing!

    We don’t do valentine’s day. I’m probably one of the least romantic females. And C is in busy season for work. Takes the pressure off of both of us 🙂

    I have a question for you about lipstick! How do you know what shade to get? I’m always so intimidated that something won’t match my skin tone or look good. Especially since i have larger lips, i know a color will REALLY show

    • Thanks so much for the tips, Lauren! Packing has my head in a bit of a fog, but I know it’ll be worth it in the end.

      Girl, I’m totally agreeing with you on the friendship thing! It was so hard as a kid to make friends, but then adulthood came, and friendship became a gazillion times harder! You’re completely right on the “picture perfect, Instagram-ready friendship”. Agreeing with that truth!

      I know a lot of people who don’t do Valentine’s Day, and that’s okay. Besides, you have 365 days/year to love on each other 🙂

      As far as lipstick shades go, I’m honestly SO WORRIED overtime I choose a colour. I have larger lips too, and when I smile, my mouth covers my face (haha!). I’ve tried the whole red lipstick thing, and it makes me resemble Joker from Batman, so I try and stick with lighter, less harsh colours. My first LipSense colour was Bella, and it’s a nice, light wine(ish) colour. Try to stick to light pinks & neutrals (you honestly can’t go wrong with those–LipSense Bombshell shade is the perfect neutral), but my friend Rachel (linked in the post) also does colour matching for anybody (for free!). If you’d like to get in contact with her, she could match you & help you find a colour that will really suit you 🙂

      • Lauren McHugh

        Thank you for the lipstick advice. One of these days I will have to try it! So excited for y’all and this new adventure!

  • Sam

    I think having friends as adults is thee absolute hardest thing ever! When you’re married and have kids, the time commitment is just so hard to find. PLUS I’m an introvert too and it’s hard to be that person. I once read that an adult that has 1-2 really good friends is in a good place.

    I agree with labeling everything. Every box (on multiple sides of the box) should have a room where it’s supposed to go. The multiple sides is good because things will get put on top and around it, so you want to actually see your label ha. Pack one box of immediate necessities: cleaning supplies, plates for eating, things you’ll need the first night you’re there and put it somewhere it won’t get lost in the shuffle. Lastly breathe, because it’s exciting and exhausting and it’s a wonderful moment in your life 🙂 Enjoy all of it!

    Also, I second the lip shade question. I want something really soft pink, almost nude. I’ll have to check your friend out!

    • Totally agree with you, Sam! Friendship as an adult is hard enough, but being an introvert makes it 10x harder! I sometimes wish there was a way of having ready-made friendships, but then I remember the work that goes into cultivating those friendships is what makes them stick. It’s just such hard work!

      Thanks so much for the tips on moving! I’ve been making sure our boxes are well marked (in my lovely pink Sharpie writing–ha!), but will be making a box for immediate necessities, too. It’s such a good idea, especially since I’d be that girl rummaging through boxes at 2AM trying to find sheets for the bed or my toothbrush haha!

      Rachel will be able to do a colour match for you & will help you find the perfect LipSense shade! I’m currently loving Bombshell. You can look the shade up on Pinterest; it’s the perfect pink(ish) nude!

  • YOU are one of my handful of good friends. I love you, girl! Our talks keep me sane.

    We are moving in the spring, too! We haven’t quite nailed down the date, but some time in April. One of Craig’s coworkers is in the process of closing on a house, and they need someone to rent their condo — which coincides perfectly with the end of our lease! And we will be saving a LOT on our rent, which is a huge plus! I haven’t really even thought about packing yet, but when we do start, I think it will help me adopt a more minimal lifestyle, because I don’t want all of the junk we currently have to become unnecessary clutter in our new place.


    • Totally was thinking of you when I wrote about friendships! I’ve struggled so much with trusting people, but you came at the perfect time to restore my hope in friends. God has blessed me with you, and I’m so very thankful for that gift. I love you, friend!

      I’m so excited for you two! I want all the details about the move. Saving on your rent will be such a huge blessing, for sure, and I’m so glad it’s working out for you! Honestly, moving is the best opportunity to adopt a more minimal lifestyle, since packing stinks. My idea is this: if I hate packing this much, I probably shouldn’t have this much. So little by little, I’m pairing down & packing only what I truly need.

      Love you!

  • Jessica Letchford

    Your blog is beautiful! I’d love to have coffee with you. 🙂 But in this we’d be terrible company: I’m equally as indecisive. 😉

    Totally with you on the screen time. I’ve been shocking lately. I’m trying to leave my phone turned off and in the car while at work, stay away from it first thing in the morning, and I’d like to start plugging it in and away at a certain point in the evening; somewhere between half an hour and 1.5 hours before I go to bed. For the last year, I’ve kept my phone on the other side of my bedroom to my bed, with the internet disabled and my phone on silent, and that has helped (and apparently is healthy, too). Actually, I keep my phone on silent pretty much all the time, so I’m not always justifying checking it by ‘I didn’t hear anything’. It helped a bit, especially at first, but now that I’m used to it, it’s still pretty bad! Thanks for that app idea. I’m a bit scared to try it, actually!

    I know what you mean about friendships. Keep at it girl, push past the awkward stage – ohmygoodness it’s worth it!

  • I am there with you on the few “friends” page. And most of them are dudes. And most don’t live close. I laugh because many acquaintances of mine have tons of friends but when it came to the thick of it, no one would really ever stand up for them.
    And I don’t celebrate holidays-not into the commercial side of any of them. Excpet maybe St. Patrick’s Day, because I am Irish and my eyes are green so I don’t wear green 🙂
    And personally, I would take a local coffee shop over S-bucks for 2 reasons. I am not into chain restaurants and they don’t have Irish Cream. I just love these coffee dates.

  • Megan

    If we were having coffee together I’d tell you that coffee has been making me feel weird lately and I’m thinking I should give it up for a little while but I really don’t want to!
    Also, I completely am the same way with friends. I have very few friends because I’d much rather maintain close friendships than have lots of superficial ones.